Parenting after divorce: 2 tips to make co-parenting work

No one gets married expecting to divorce or separate. Unfortunately, one in two marriages ends in divorce in the United States. If you have children, the relationship with your ex never quite ends with a divorce, and you need to come up with a post-divorce parenting plan.

Your ex may no longer be your favorite human being. However, a carefully worked-out co-parenting plan can make life easier and more enjoyable for everyone involved, especially the children. Here are two tips that can help you create a co-parenting plan that works.

1. Do not leave anything to chance

The divorce or separation may have been amicable, and you may get on with each other. However, there is no guarantee that this will always be the case. While North Carolina does not require you to make a formal parenting plan, it is often wise. Think of it as a failsafe. If you are getting along, that’s awesome, but what happens if disagreements come up?

2. Seek common ground

Chances are there is some common ground or shared values between you and your ex. One of these could be your love for your little ones. This is the perfect starting point before moving on to things you both care about, like your children’s education and activities. It is easy to build a consensus when working on something you both believe is essential. If the kids are old enough, how about seeking their input too? Remember, unity of purpose is an important ingredient in your post-divorce parenting success.

A well-thought-out co-parenting plan can help restore some form of normalcy and assure your children that both you and your ex are committed to giving them the best parenting possible.